5 things I love about BDSM

BDSM is becoming more mainstream and you might be wondering what all the fuss is about. Why would couples want to include BDSM in their sex lives? In this blog I am going to share 5 things that I love about BDSM.

BDSM utilises more of the brain

The brain is capable of handling 2 million visual inputs and 100,000 auditory inputs at any one time. Imagine you and your partner are wearing special outfits and playing with chains that clink and whips that crack or stroking each other with a variety of textured objects. Now you understand how BDSM activities equals more stimulation for the brain.

BDSM encourages communication

Because BDSM includes new or unusual activities, talking about them is essential. Couples that engage in BDSM are therefore more likely to talk about their curiosities and desires, leading to deeper intimacy. Giving feedback helps couples to learn about what works and what does not work for them.

BDSM teaches an awareness of boundaries

Playing in ways that might inflict pain means that there is a risk of someone being hurt more than they want. To take good care of each other, couples engaging in BDSM will talk to each other about what their limits and expectations are and agree how they will communicate if they want an activity to stop. Being aware of boundaries helps to build trust between partners and ensures that they can meet each other’s needs.

BDSM forms new pleasure pathways

If you use your fingers to masturbate and bring yourself to orgasm, a pleasure pathway is formed via your genitals, fingers, and brain. This would be one way of experiencing pleasure again and again but humans do crave novelty. If you always follow the same pleasure pathways, you might get bored or over time the pleasure pathway becomes less stimulating. BDSM encourages exploration and can help people to discover and form new pathways to pleasure, such as through spanking.

BDSM helps you to feel more

If you are an overthinker and find it difficult to relax and feel pleasure during physical intimacy, BDSM could help you to get out of your head and into your body. It might be the strong physical impact of being spanked that shocks you out of thinking, or it might be the act of surrendering control to the person spanking you that eases your mind. BDSM activities can be designed to be very slow and deliberate, creating more of an intense focus on physical sensation.

These are just some of the things that I think are great about BDSM and are based on my own experiences. One other thing that I love about BDSM is that it is so varied and affects people in varied ways, so the same activity could affect different people in different ways. With so much to explore, you will never be bored playing with BDSM.

Contact me for a consultation if you want to learn more about playing with BDSM.

In peace, love, and kink,

Divine Theratrix xx