A handjob can be a powerful tool for pleasure and connection in intimate relationships. While many people have a basic understanding of how to give a handjob, there are secret techniques that can take the experience to a whole new level. As an expert in sexual well-being, intimacy, and Tantra, I have discovered these techniques through my training and my background in sexological bodywork. In this blog, I will share with you the secrets to giving an amazing handjob that will leave your partner in awe.

Moving Beyond the Usual: When it comes to handjobs, we often focus on a few specific areas, such as the head of the penis, perineum, and anus. While these areas can be pleasurable, relying solely on them can lead to predictability and a lack of excitement. To truly create an extraordinary handjob experience, we need to go beyond the usual and explore new techniques that stimulate different parts of the body.

Embracing Anticipation and Surprise: One of the key elements of an amazing handjob is anticipation. By changing things up and introducing surprises, you can enhance arousal and create a heightened sense of pleasure. Instead of following a repetitive pattern, consider incorporating a variety of techniques that touch your partner’s body in different ways. This unpredictability keeps the experience fresh, exciting, and filled with anticipation.

The Pleasure Line Technique: In tantric practices, we emphasize the concept of the pleasure line. This line starts from the urethral opening and extends down through the frenulum, penile raphe, scrotal raphe, and perineal raphe, ending at the anus. By exploring and stimulating different points along this pleasure line, you can create intense sensations and build arousal.

Techniques to Try:

1. Waterfall: This technique involves a rhythmic sliding motion that mimics the sensation of penetration. Begin by gripping the glans of your partner’s penis with your hand, creating a tight ring-like grip. Slowly slide your hand down to the balls while maintaining the grip. Repeat this motion with each hand, alternating between them. Adjust the speed and intensity based on your partner’s preferences and reactions.
2. Spider: With your partner lying on their back, position yourself between their thighs or to one side. Using one hand, hold or gently caress the head of their penis. With the other hand, run your fingertips up the shaft, keeping constant skin-to-skin contact. Allow your palm, wrist, and arm to follow your fingertips, creating a sensation similar to a spider crawling over their skin. Experiment with different movements and playfully engage with your partner’s reactions.
3. Soap: This technique focuses on the head of the penis and involves rubbing your palms together around the glans, creating a sensation similar to rubbing soap between your hands. This technique can provide intense stimulation, so be mindful of your partner’s sensitivity and adjust accordingly.

Creating Your Own Techniques: Don’t be afraid to explore and create your own handjob techniques based on your partner’s preferences and feedback. Incorporate caressing, stroking, gentle scratching, tapping (excluding the testicles), and squeezing motions. Use different parts of your body, such as your wrists, arms, and legs, to add variety and maximize skin-to-skin contact. You can also introduce sex toys or combine hand and mouth movements to further enhance pleasure.

The Importance of Lubrication and Feedback: Using ample lubrication is essential for a pleasurable handjob experience. While saliva can be suitable for oral sex, using a high-quality lubricant is recommended for handjobs to ensure a smooth and comfortable experience.

Encourage feedback from your partner, but be mindful of finding the right balance.