Your Questions Answered

Accessing sex and relationship support can be a big decision so to make things a little easier we have compiled all your pressing questions into an easy to access section below.

Still have unanswered questions? Then check out our Sexpert Blogs or contact one of our many featured practitioners who offer free 15-20 minute discovery calls. 

***We request that you do not abuse the free discovery calls offered by practitioners.***

A Sexpert is a certified professional working within the field of Human Sexuality. 

The term Sexpert is an umbrella term used for professionals from  a number of different professions: 

  • Counselling 
  • Psychology
  • Sexology 
  • Coaching 
  • Tantra 
  • BDSM 
  • Sexological Bodywork 
  • Sex Therapy  to name a few 

 

A Sexpert holds appropriate Certifications from a reputable training/educational establishments.  They are skilled, educated and knowledgeable in the field of Sexuality Support and Human Sexuality. 

All advertisers have gone through a stringent verification process we ask that all advertisers:

  • Prove they have a minimum of one year, client face to face work experience within Sexuality Support
  • Upload relevant certifications from reputable establishments
  • Acknowledge if they have appropriate professional insurance for their work
  • Provide details of an Association or Governing Body of which they are a member 
  • Have a website available for public viewing
  • Take part in an annual process to keep this information on your profile up to date and relevant

Professionals found on our platform are required to upload all relevant certificates obtained within the Sexuality Support Industry and closely connected topics and industries i.e. Nursing, Fertility and Dating Coaching.

findmysexpert work alongside many reputable and established training providers to make sure we feature responsible, highly trained professionals to the public.     

All professionals featured on our platform are required to have a minimum of one year, client face to face work experience (we discount group work and facilitating events).  This is in addition to any face to face practical work undertaken while completing their training or certification.  

When joining our platform Practitioners are required to complete their background studies and work experience those who do not meet this requirement do not go live to the public.   

Advertising practitioners are recruited from reputable and established training providers within the Sexuality Support Industry.    

We require practitioners to have a working website available to the public that clearly outline the practitioners’ services.  Most professionals’ websites will include the following information:

  • Details of all services offered
  • Cost of services, payment requirements and refund policy
  • Credentials, awards and accolades obtained in their work
  • Terms and Conditions
  • What to expect and a what not to expect
  • Practitioners bio or background
  • Governing Body or Association information

 

These elements found within a practitioner’s website indicate a responsible and safety conscious professional who has client’s wellbeing of paramount importance.    

Typically, practitioners take up to 48 hours to respond to e-mails. 

Most practitioners will leave an out of office reply on their e-mail if they are away from their workplace.  Always check your junk mail for replies. 

All practitioners on the findmysexpert platform are required to work in line with best practice and code of ethics/conduct within the profession or modality they work within and the services they offer.  findmysexpert is not a regulatory or governing body, we do not hold details of practitioner’s insurance.

 

BDSM  is a variety of often erotic practices or roleplaying involving sexual activity. 

Involving such practices as the use of physical restraints, the granting and relinquishing of control, and the infliction of pain BDSM refers to a range of sexual preferences that generally relate to enjoyment of physical control, psychological control, and/or pain.

Seeking out an experienced BDSM or kink practitioner can be difficult.  There are many people practicing and offering BDSM services which are less desirable.  Our featured practitioners spend years learning the ropes – so to speak!   

Sexology is the general term for the scientific study of human sexuality and sexual behavior, and the people who study it are referred to as Sexologists.

While a number of sexologists choose to pursue a career as a sex therapist working in a formal and structured clinical setting others work as researchers, educators or public policy activist.

You will find the former ‘Sex Therapists’ on the findmysexpert platform. 

Often sex therapists have educational backgrounds in disciplines such as sociology, psychology, biology and public health.  

Sexologists work with clients, either individually or as a couple, to improve and address problems in their sex lives — everything from mismatched libidos to difficulties orgasming.

You will not receive physical contact in a session with a Sex Therapist / Sexologists. 

Counselling is a talking therapy that involves a trained therapist listening to you and helping you find ways to deal with emotional issues.

 

Couples or Relationship Counselling 

Relationship counsellors provide a supportive and non-judgmental environment where you can both talk openly about the problems or issues that you are struggling with and work to better understand and support one another.  

Often many couples are unable to actually define the issues within their relationship, you just have a repeated feeling of unhappiness. 

An experienced counsellor can help you identify new ways to rebuild your relationship and rediscover the closeness that was instrumental in bringing you and your partner together. Speaking to a counsellor can support you to rebuild your confidence, see more options and possibilities in relating, and feel enabled to make empowered choices about your relationships.

 

Sex Intimacy and Relationship coaches can be either or:

Talk Coaching 

Similar to life coaching, in talk-based sex coaching you would approach a practitioner with a problem.  The coach then helps you to figure out what steps you need to define and solve the problem.  During a talk coaching sessions, a sex coach will ask you about your challenges and goals.   A coaching plan will be established with easy to reach steps to address each concern.  Sessions are structured around your  issues and your plan will help to keep you on track and reach your goals.  

Coaches will offer suggestions for improvement, as well as books and video recommendations to support your learning.

 

Experiential Coaching 

This method of coaching requires a coach to teach you how to be a better lover through talking as well as hands-on practices.  Experiential practices might include breath, touch, how to expand, harness and or share your sexual energy.  

Experiential Coaches work on the prims that talking often is not enough to learn new skills around sex and intimacy, the same way that you cannot learn to become a great tennis player by reading a book.

 

You can read a recent blog from Intimacy Coach Michael Dresser on their approach to Mindful Sex Coaching. 

Psychology is the scientific study of the mind and how it dictates and influences our behaviour, from communication and memory to thought and emotion.

 

Relationship Psychologist 

A relationship psychologist is a mental health practitioner who mediates human relationships. They are trained in the field of psychology and are different from counsellors. Although these two occupations have considerable overlap, psychologists have greater responsibilities, often working with people with serious mental illnesses, and are qualified to administer a wealth of tests in addition to psychotherapy.

The main goal that relationship psychologists have is to improve the quality of the relationship of their clients and help them resolve underlying problems within their relationship.

Sexological Bodywork is somatic education that assists individuals, couples, and groups to deepen their experience and awareness of their body, eroticism, and sexuality. 

The word “Soma” or “Somatic”  means ‘of the body.’  Essentially a body based practice.   

You can read more about Sexological Bodywork from Sue Sutherland’s Blog: What is Sexological Bodywork?